Most parents wait too long to request an IEP, often because the school keeps saying 'let's wait and see.' Here are 10 signs that the wait-and-see era should be over.
- Homework regularly takes 2–3× longer than peers
- Your child is exhausted, not just tired, after school
- Behaviour is fine at school and falls apart at home
- Reports say 'capable but inconsistent' for the third year in a row
- Anxiety, school refusal, or stomach aches before school
- Your child has a diagnosis the school is 'aware of' but not acting on
- Recurring incidents framed as 'choices' instead of unmet needs
- Marks dropping despite effort
- You have a private assessment that is gathering dust
- You feel like you are the only one driving anything
What to do next
Make the request in writing. Cite specific concerns. Ask for a meeting and for any informal supports already in place to be documented. If your child has a diagnosis or assessment, attach it.
Common questions
Where can I get personalized help with requesting an IEP?+
Book a private strategy call with our advocacy team. We'll review your situation and map your next steps for your child's school supports.
Does this apply across Canada?+
Yes — the principles apply nationally. Province-specific notes are flagged in the article. Ontario has the deepest detail because that is where most of our advocacy work is concentrated.
Still have questions about your child's situation?
A 30-minute strategy call is the fastest way to get clear, Canada-specific next steps from a parent advocate.